Demotherizing America! Reviving Martha and Mary!

When I was 19, I totally bought into the rhetoric of the women's movement. According to their message, 'pro woman' means pro abortion. There was also a loud and clear message that you couldn't be pro woman if you were pro life. I also believed that abortion was my total right and would empower me by freeing me up to pursue more 'lofty goals', such as being anything else but a mother. When I had my abortion at 19, I was totally caught off guard with my feelings of guilt, regret and mainly powerlessness. In my deep depression I felt alone and really honestly believed I was the only pro woman post abortive woman to start to believe that my so-called SISTERS like Gloria Steinem and Margaret Sanger were not looking out for my best interests after all. Abortion is not pro woman and indeed not liberating. This past week, Gloria Steinem wrote an op-ed piece regarding Sarah Palin called "Palin; Wrong Woman.." In the piece she says the following regarding Sarah Palin:

"She opposes just about every issue that women support by a majority or plurality."

Give me a minute to respond to Ms. Steinem:
"Excuse me Ms. Steinem, but you are very out of touch with the women of America. If anybody is unsuited to speak on behalf of American women, it is you. Please stop speaking lies regarding the female majority and what it is that you think that we want. You have no clue! When McCain chose Sarah Palin as his running mate, hope was implanted back into the hearts and wombs of the women of America who have been violated by the abortions that you advocated for. With your advocacy through the years, all hope was lost for me and others like me that have been scarred by abortion, that now see abortion for what it truly is: the destruction of another human being, our sons and daughters. The more you speak or claim to speak for the MAJORITY of women, the more you steal them of their life affirming true power. I know now that nothing has empowered me more then expressing myself fully which includes motherhood, even when unplanned. You have DEMOTHERIZED women and America. This week with Sarah Palin representing the true female majority, we finally have been revived and are being resurrected with hope. You say in your piece that you are a "hope-a-holic". What are your hopes? That women will continue to be allowed to kill their babies and go through an abortion that could potentially lead them into deep sadness and regret? Do you hope that you can continue to advocate for women being in power as long as those women only believe that abortion is not an atrocity toward children and women? Ms. Steinem, please stop confusing the young women of America. If they continued to listen to you they may believe that not allowing abortion is the same as promoting STD's. They may believe that the Republican party is still not the party of women. There is a new face in the game and a new leader for us. You can retire now. This woman is relevant and speaks for the women of today. Her name is Sarah Palin and she is a republican mother. No she didn't abort her down syndrome baby. She would not have allowed her daughter to go through the hell of abortion, even if raped. And she wears a skirt, loves her children and husband and has the credentials to be in true power. She is the one who is speaking for the majority of the women, not you. If anyone is the wrong woman for the job of female leadership it is you."

Whew! Hope! When we witness how many children have been aborted and how many women are still hurting, it is hard to have hope. In the story about Lazarus in the bible (john 11:1-50) we see two women whose brother has been dead for days. The only hope they have is Jesus. Lazarus was ready for burial. All hope was gone. They were grieved. I relate so much to this story. The grief of losing a child is very deep. It can linger for a long time. Many of us have believed that the powers that be in govt will just continue to turn their eyes away from the life left inside of women, allowing that life to die. Jesus came and brought Lazarus back to life. Joy and hope filled the hearts and souls of Martha and Mary. I prayed for healing from my despair after abortion, and God healed me through my children. But there will also be a sadness as long as young women are kept away from the TRUTH. This week I believe that the Martha's and Mary's of our country that have aborted and lost hope can now see some light. Jesus is answering our prayers by reviving a women's movement too...this new movement embracing true feminism is also defined as embodying feminine character. We are mothers and proud of it. Sarah Palin is our leader. Gloria Steinem can retire.

ms. steinems piece:
http://www.latimes.com/news/printedition/opinion/la-oe-steinem4-2008sep04,0,1290251.story

19 and pregnant!

The focus on 17 year old Bristol Palin has brought up some intense memories for me. I thought maybe I would give some insight as to what it is like to find out you are pregnant before turning 20. It is so deeply complicated. But in a nutshell when a young woman discovers she is pregnant it is sheer fear and desperation that causes her to abort her baby. Very few women abort because of an intense and happy desire to abort. (ps..check out the studies of David Reardon of the Elliot institute..link on the side of this blog). I found out I was pregnant when i was 19. My mother was a single mother and my Dad was not in our financial picture. My mother also had just remarried and made it clear that she had been looking forward to living on her own with my wonderful stepfather without any children at home. I had to support myself financially and had been doing so for a couple of years at that point. I had an incredible job singing and dancing at Disney. I was most rightly correct in believing I would lose that job and my benefits had I decided to tell them about the pregnancy. My mistake was to have premarital sex and live with a young man. Once I found out I was pregnant I felt that I had no one. And being alone without anyone saying "i will make it better. I will support you eventhough you made this mistake" is all that a young girl is longing for. Her greatest fear is rejection from her family and friends and inflicting disappointment on them. When young women with very little life experience are alone attempting to make this major decision for themselves run into a Planned parenthood that tells them 'this is the way to make it better,' they are so desperate that they believe the lie hook line and sinker. In a nutshell, the little angel falls and runs into the devil disguised as a caring sister or mother. THe girl then hears the rationale from Planned parenthood that this is the best choice and they don't even focus or acknowledge the real live human being living and growing inside. Sad still to admit my family was pro choice and as much as we all love eachother if we are being really honest the support I would have received would have been support in making my choice to abort. I have happily found forgiveness no doubt from Jesus. But the reality is that because of the complexities of the issue young women are given weeks to make a decision that requires mature and Godly counsel. In all honesty, many of us who oppose abortion also will oppose government support or welfare for unwed women facing a crisis pregnancy. It is hugely difficult for the women who choose to keep their babies as well and yet LIFE is the only proper choice. It also takes intense courage to come out with this news and greater courage to go through with the pregnancy when living in a pro choice family. These women need support because the largest demographic for crisis pregnancies are college aged students and minorities. Both of which usually have little financial support. I pray for more acceptance for young women who decide to make a positive choice in giving life to their babies. But look at what is going on in the media right now. The liberal media that is controlled by the same media that will champion women's right to choose will crucify a mother who chooses to support her daughter and the young mother choosing to keep her baby. Sarah Palin and her husband made such a positive statement regarding their support for their daughter Bristol and her young fiance. I want to say "amen' to that. But I also cringe at the media coverage and wonder how many young women today are saying to themselves "i am heading to the abortion clinic because I don't want to be attacked and met with the same venom as they are handing out to Bristol and her mother." Our society is hugely twisted. I wonder if someone can have the courage to ask Barack Obama if the reason he didn't choose Hillary for his running mate was because she was a mother. Or is it okay because she only had one child or perhaps she chose abortion in her past..you never know...but we really need to pray that God is victorious in moving the hearts, minds and souls of these young women that are pregnant today to seeing the potential for a world that is run by women who scream out and say "it is not pro women to allow us to kill our babies."